Some of you who have been reading this blog since 2011 will remember Lee. The last time I had the unfortunate event in running into her was when Ellen, Charlie and I came back to Ellen’s from seeing a concert – right after Charlie moved here and in with me.
Ellen’s two friends, Rhoda and Heidi were in town staying in their Winnebago parked at Ellen’s. Sarah McLachlan was playing at Chastain that night and Ellen and I had decided to surprise Charlie. Lee had also gotten Heidi a ticket to the show and asked her to go, Ellen had told us on the way to the concert. I wasn’t concerned as Lee had tickets that were much further up and there was really only a slight chance in running into her. Which, I didn’t care, anyway. At the time, we all thought it was WEIRD that Lee just gets Heidi a ticket to the show and Rhoda thinks nothing of them going together.
Lee had met the two of them previously when we were going out and they were traveling and performing together. They happened to be in town and Ellen invited us down to a burger/bar joint for dinner one night. When I first met Rhoda and Heidi I couldn’t really see the match – AT ALL. Nothing against Rhoda (other than being a stupid b*tch to let her gf run off with Lee all the time but I’ll get to that) but she is one you would imagine out back, behind the cabin splitting wood in her overalls and not intimate with a razor of any kind- if you know what I mean. Heidi would be one you would see out back cooking meth in a shed. Honestly, I couldn’t see much in either, however, I was trying not to judge until Heidi went into a speal about having medical [liquid] marijuana and that when they went into Canada to play they almost got thrown in jail. I had asked what the medical [weed] was for and she said, Oh, I’m sick. I’m very sick.
Hmm, that weed must be good because it either cured you to sit here and gladly eat hamburgers, fries and drink beer or you must not be too sick to be sitting here eating hamburgers, fries and drinking beer, I thought. I had just gotten out of a relationship with someone who was constantly the later – I’m sick but I can’t pick up my own trash, run a sponge over the counter or push the button on the laundry to turn it on and, oh, can I have $100 to go to a movie and take my kid shopping? Yeah, I’d been there, done that and I was done listening to anything Heidi said the rest of the night. But, Lee apparently was smitten. Her and Heidi were looking at Heidi’s youtube videos and talking about her music.
She’s truely talented, Lanie, truely talented…..echoed in my head.
Later, Lee happened to mention that they had friended each other on FB and that they talked for an hour the other night. I was like, When did y’all exchange numbers?
Oh, the other night at the bar.
That was the thing with Lee. She was always texting and calling other women. There was always someone else in the picture. I realized at the end of the relationship [if you could call it that] that she would never be satisfied with having one person and even so that one person would always be jealous of her always texting and calling other women. She would say, We’re just friends. But, normally one would not be calling and texting their best friend all day long and every evening unless they wanted to get into friend’s pants. Know what I mean? I had this same problem with her and Muscle head which, I’m sure she screwed around with behind my back that one night.
So fast forward 4 years and I get a message from Ellen:
OMG! Rhoda called me this morning.. apparently Lee went to visit Heidi for new years and Lee told Rhoda that Heidi is her soul mate and she knew they were connected from the first time they met at Brockett… Heidi and Rhoda are living together.. Rhoda is more than a little pissed and is getting Heidi out of her apartment hopefully today.. It just sounds like a huge mess and I feel bad for Rhoda.. She needs to be rid of Heidi and maybe Heidi and her soul mate Lee can be happy and crazy together..
Oh.my.Gawd. I knew it! So did she go out there to bust them up or what?
She went out there for a visit.. Lee says that Heidi didn’t indicate that she and Rhoda were together and that she thinks Heidi is her soul mate and that she is sure Rhoda will find someone that she connects with if Rhoda just puts herself out there or so other random bullshit.. Rhoda is livid.. she and Heidi moved in together in September to a one bedroom apartment.. but Lee didn’t get the impression that Heidi and Rhoda were in a relationship.. Yeah Rhoda sounds done.. I soo hope she is.. Lee came out to visit Heidi and Rhoda but Lee and Heidi needed some one on one alone time so on New Year’s eve they left Rhoda at home and went out and got a hotel at the place that Rhoda wanted to take Heidi for the night.. it sounds pretty screwed up…
Ok, what is wrong with this picture? Is Rhoda so stupid that she’s just ok with Lee and Heidi going off to a hotel somewhere to screw on NYE?
Rhoda said they spend hours on the phone with each other..
This was not surprising as the girl never removed the phone(s) from the side of her head or hand the whole time we were seeing each other. Wait, this conversation seems like it’s in third person so I asked, Was Rhonda the one telling u all this about what Lee said and not thinking they were together?
Yes. Lee sent Rhoda a text, Rhoda read it to me… It is entirely possible that Heidi lied about their relationship to Lee but still… She may have told Lee that they were not in a relationship but Rhoda said before they left for their alone one on one time Rhoda told them to respect Rhoda and Heidi’s relationship and Rhoda’s feelings… It is very odd and kinda shocking to me.. I just kept saying “Wow, Lee?” it has been 4 years… Lee and Heidi have been building this up for 4 years.. its kinda crazy.
That was the thing with Lee – she has Asperger’s syndrome which includes: Obsessive interests.
That’s why I’m relieved that the times we have bumped into one another after the breakup she had a glowing interest in someone else or else I would have gone back onto her radar and she would have blown my phone up with messages and texts and Charlie would eventually had had to go over there and cut her throat.
But, let’s talk about Rhoda being a stupid bitch. Why would you allow your partner to go to a hotel on NYE with someone else and still think you could be in a relationship? What wood cutting, no-shave -body -hair planet is she living on??!!
And, 4 years??!!?
I said to Ellen, Wait? Wasn’t Heidi abusive at one point to Rhoda?
She was and Rhoda said that Christmas she had to call the police on Heidi again… Heidi’s parents live out there nearby.. I can’t imagine Heidi leaving.. but I can’t see Lee moving out there? But who knows.. I really don’t care much as long as Rhoda rids herself of Heidi… It is just so destructive to Rhoda.
All I kept looking at was the line of “call the police on Heidi again..” How many times has she called the cops on her, I wondered.
What does Heidi do?
Oh, she’s collecting disability.
Right, but obviously she’s not too sick to beat on someone -unless that medical marijuana is miracle marijuana.
Anyway, the only surprising thing in this story is that it’s still going on 4 years later.